Last week I was talking to an old friend of mine (over 15 years of friendship) and I asked her for her advice. It’s always those really close friends who can help you put things into perspective. You know the ones who call you out when you know you’re just kidding yourself, the ones who are brutally honest and the ones who know when you need a good sit down. It was talking to her that I realize I tend to put more effort into friendships than I really should.
I consider myself a go-getter. I consider myself someone who is always doing something. Going to school full time taking 15 hours and a lab, working part time and now being Chair of a non-profit isn’t easy. I have to manage my time well, or I’ll lose my mind and forget about things that take priority over something else. I’m also old enough to realize now, regardless of how busy I am to ALWAYS make time for the ones you love.
But what about when it’s not reciprocated? What about when you’re always the one calling a friend, but you never get a call back? What about when there comes a day when you ask yourself, “why do I feel like the only one in this friendship?” Last year I asked myself this same question and realized I had a lot of people in my life just sucking the energy out of me. This year I’m asking myself the same question, but much more specific.
In life you have friends who will be there forever and friends who will come in your life momentarily and make a great impact, but won’t stay. It’s inevitable and it’s just a part of life. I’m learning now to be happy and completely okay with this, because everything is a learning experience right? There’s no reason to dwell on the sad parts. Be happy and move on. Life is too short to throw a pity party.
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